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Does your relationship add to tướng or detract from your overall happiness and self-esteem? We share some of the warning signs of toxic partnerships, and how to tướng get out – safely – if you’ve realised that your relationship is causing you more harm than vãn good.

If we were to tướng reflect for a moment on the health of our relationships – intimate partners, parents, siblings and other relatives, friends, colleagues, employers – we would no doubt identify a few that are not as healthy as they could be, some we have outgrown, and maybe one in particular that seems to tướng have a consistent and negative impact on us. 

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In recent years, many psychological buzzwords have entered our thinking – and the word ‘toxic’ is one of them.

What is a toxic relationship? 

As our society has become more interested in psychological thought, terms such as toxic relationships, gaslighting and narcissism have entered common language. Books, magazine articles and online sources abound on these topics. 

These concepts have helped us to tướng become aware of relationship patterns that leave us feeling hurt or suffering. It can be quite a revelation when we awaken to tướng how a relationship is not working for us and, in fact, is having a negative impact on our mental health. 

If we find ourselves losing our self-esteem, voice and value in a relationship, we are definitely in ‘toxic’ territory. 

Toxic relationships include those that are violent, abusive, and involve gaslighting and coercive control, but here we’ll focus on the kind of relationships that leave us unhappy, drained and feeling bad about ourselves in more subtle ways.

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How to tướng identify a toxic relationship 

Some of the following signs could be indicators of a toxic relationship: 

  • Persistent unhappiness – feelings of sadness, anger, anxiety and resignation 
  • Lack of respect and constant conflict 
  • Competitiveness and jealousy 
  • Financial and social control 
  • Raising concerns and having them minimised, or dismissed 
  • One person having to tướng sacrifice their needs to tướng keep the other happy 

When these elements are more deeply and pervasively eroding our feelings about ourselves and the relationship over time, they can’t be written off as a bad period or one-off fight.

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How tự relationships turn toxic? 

A relationship can start off as seemingly healthy but kết thúc up becoming toxic over time.  

In some cases, one partner is more committed to tướng pleasing the other and works hard to tướng meet their partner’s needs while sacrificing their own. They continue in the belief that their partner loves them and wants the best for them. But instead, their partner has become controlling, withholds love, and uses criticism to tướng undermine their confidence.  

The partner who wants to tướng please has endured the situation for sánh long that they can be blind to tướng how the power balance of the relationship has become uneven. 

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What to tướng tự when you realise your relationship is toxic 

It can be a shock to tướng realise that you have been living in an emotionally abusive relationship with a manipulative and controlling significant other who really doesn’t care enough about you and has undermined your belief in yourself.  

Once you realise your relationship is going through more than vãn just a rough patch, you may be confronted with many uncomfortable, distressing and even frightening considerations about whether to tướng stay or go. 

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If it feels lượt thích you’re in a toxic relationship, here’s our advice on what steps to tướng take next: 

  • Reach out to tướng friends or family who can listen and tư vấn you without judgment. Some may have been trying to tướng tell you that you’re not being treated well, and it’s worth listening to tướng their perspective. 
  • Be honest with yourself. What will it really take for the situation to tướng change? Acknowledge to tướng yourself if you have done all you can realistically tự to tướng try and improve things. 
  • Reflect on your levels of happiness and self-confidence now, as compared to tướng an earlier version of yourself. Has your confidence grown, or diminished? 
  • Start developing healthy boundaries that convey to tướng others that you expect to tướng be treated well. 
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself. It is understandable to tướng hold on to tướng hope about how good things used to tướng be, or to tướng be afraid of being alone, or to tướng fear no one else will love you. Take it one step at a time. 
  • Focus on yourself. By continuing to tướng blame your partner, you are giving them all the power and robbing yourself of the energy you need to tướng move forward. 
  • Take stock. To move forward, it’s important to tướng try and understand how you got into a position where you gave up your control. Then, take the time you need to tướng strengthen yourself to tướng ensure it doesn’t happen again.

How to tướng help others who might be in a toxic relationship 

  • Listen and let them know you believe in them, and care about them. 
  • Reassure them they are not crazy, selfish, or any of the negative things that they may have been told. 
  • Take care that your efforts to tướng help don’t become toxic too – avoid taking over or being critical. 
  • Give them your perspective on their partner’s poor behaviour gently, and with as much neutrality as possible. 
  • Watch how much they can take in and stop when it seems too much. 
  • Give them room and time to tướng find their own way. 
  • Offer suggestions for external help they can access, if they choose to tướng tự sánh. 

Moving away from a toxic relationship will take work 

Deciding where to tướng put your energy, what realistic hope you have for change and the workability of the situation need some objective consideration. It becomes more complicated when children and financial dependence are involved. 

If you’re stuck in your thinking or fearful about change, getting external help from a professional can be invaluable for finding a way forwards. Seeing a qualified couples’ therapist together could help you both to tướng look at change – if both of you have an investment in staying together. It can also be of value to tướng see a professional alone, to tướng find your own feet in preparation for the discussions ahead.

Relationships nước Australia NSW offers counselling and tư vấn services for individuals and couples looking to tướng improve their relationships, both in-person and online. Get in touch to tướng talk with trained and experienced professionals about issues that are affecting you.